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Negative Inspiration

I dare you to figure me out!

Hello readers!  If you are a regular visitor in my site I guess you’ve already read that line. It might sound like a challenge but it’s more than that to me. Actually, reality just hit me now. It’s not your duty to discern me- my thoughts, fears, aspirations, joys, and pains. It’s my solitary task to discover and rediscover that veiled truths in me.

And today I shall take the first few steps.

I once cursed my father. You heard it right. But before you condemn me, please take a listen first.

Twenty two years ago, I was six years old then, I could copiously remember what kind of life we had. We resided in the small barrio of Naujan, the biggest town in the province consisting of roughly 70 barangays. To make a living, dwellers had to plow their fields and plant various crops such as corn, rice and fruit-bearing trees.

Life was not easy then, my father was a typical farmer, a tenant of a little four-hectare parcel. And my mother, a plain housewife busying herself in the different household chores and other farming duties which was unusual for a woman of her age. I salute my mom for doing manly tasks beyond her strength just to abridge the situation.   Confronted with the nasty realities of life, making both ends meet was nearly possible.

Perhaps you’ve read this in my post “Childhood’s Rumination”. But I skipped something. No! I intentionally avoided it.

So here I am staring nervously in front of my computer thinking if I can muster narrating this story. Breathe in…Breathe out…Here it goes.

I had a father, a hardworking and responsible man, but not sweet and loving compared to some men I’ve known.  He was different. My mom had been a battered wife, and we, his children,had been physically and emotionally battered as well.

I could still remember every time we eat our meals. He would often chide me for not eating fast at his own pace. Needless to say, he’d shout at me on top of his voice telling me to put my food onto my mouth, ears and eyes so I could finish them instantly. And that made me lethargic and despondent.

One sizzling summer, our family went to the beach just to escape from the strenuous works of the homestead. I was truly overjoyed that I bolted from his reproaches even for a day. He had a good mood perhaps. Unfortunately, we went home early because of the unfriendly weather so my father just continued his favorite drink at home. Before he emptied another glass, he called my attention to get his cigarettes upstairs and look after the salted fish he was cooking in the kitchen.

I searched for it as fast I could but the problem was, I couldn’t find his cigarettes everywhere. It took me an hour to finally locate it under my parents’ bed. So I went down hastily to hand it to him. But I was late, he was too furious as he took the cigarette from me. Oh my god! The salted fish was left unattended and it turned to black. He grumpily blamed me for what happened and asked me to stay out of the house. So I went out.

It was nearly 8 o’clock then and I was patiently waiting if they would ask me to come in. But no one did. No one cared. Tragically, the rain started to pour as thunder and lightning frightened me. I hid in the foul-smelling and tapered doghouse adjacent to my neighbor’s house. For once, I experienced to be a hound and it wasn’t funny. In that very moment, I rebuked and cursed him in my mind. I even pronounced his death in the rain because of too much wrath in my heart.

Yes! I was once a bad daughter.

However, when he died a little over fifteen years ago, I learned to forgive him from all the pains that he had inflicted to our family. I learned to forgive myself too.

As I write this confession, I realized how much he loved me. He had his identifiable way of showing it but he did love me.

During meals, he trained me to eat fast so I could use my time wisely. He was a hardworking man so he valued every second and minute of it. “Eat fast and early to get ready for the day’s drudgery”, this had been his motto and I eventually tailed it.

When he sent me out that night, I knew he wanted me to discover something. Perhaps that is to keep an eye on what’s important and to learn that multitasking should not be used as an excuse to failure. Oddly, I realized that I have been already living up to my dad’s principle. He put me through difficulties at an earlier time so now that he’s gone I can soar high like an eagle without being scared to fall.

And for that, I will always be grateful because he is my father.

 

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5 Ways on How You Can Live Life to the Fullest

Dream as you’ll live forever.

Live as if you’ll die today.-James Dean

 

You only live once and life is appallingly short. It might be distressing though, but once is truly enough if you’ll live it meaningfully.

Sometimes, it’s just easy to look at your friends who are laughing around and assume that they don’t see your agony. The older you get, the more you realize that happiness really takes an effort- a true hard work.

Those people who smile at you have been through every bit as much as people who scowl and weep. They are just fully armed with optimism and bravery to beam through it anyway. So how do you ensure you’re living a life to the fullest? Here are some tips to help you out.

 

  1. Decide what’s important to you

 You have many plans in the list yet you only have one life to live. So start sorting things out and decide what should be done and prioritized. It doesn’t matter what it is or how hard it is. You can always try it. Don’t do what you think people want you to do. Your parents, friends and the society in general have all their opinions, but at the end of the day, no one else is in charge of your happiness, but you.

 

  1. Learn to take risks

You’ll never grow much if you’ll not escape from your comfort zone. Sometimes there’s danger involved in life, but every reward carries a risk with it. If you never take risks, you’ll never go anywhere. If you don’t take the chances, you might regret it later on. Go for it and face the consequences.

 

  1. Tell people you love them

When was the last time you said “I love you” to your loved ones?

Your families and friends would love to hear those words from you as much as your heart rejoices when you hear them. It’s like a music to one’s ear so let them listen to your song. You may not know how much it will affect them if you won’t tell them now. Just say the magic words- I LOVE YOU!

If you have a romantic interest to someone, just go for it. Although there are lot of ways on how it may end, but surely, only one thing will be kept in your heart. Remember, you have nothing to lose.

 

  1. Live in the present

Your past have molded you to become who you are today. Your future is equally important for it holds your dreams. But at the end of the day, though, the only thing that exists outside your head is the present. So think about your past and future, but only dwell on the present-the only thing that you are sure of. Don’t procrastinate. Start doing the things you can do today.

 

  1. Speak through your actions

  You’ll hear people say, “I had that idea”, every time you see someone create something great. Everyone had the idea. One example is the American magnate and philanthropist, William Henry Gates III, the co-founder of Microsoft Corporation, which became the world’s largest PC software company. He achieved that extraordinary status because he went out and did it while everyone else is talking about it. Ideas are useless if you don’t act on them.

 

Would you like to add something on the list?

Please let me know through the comment section.

 

God bless you!

 

© Copyright 2017 Anabel Geneta-Raymundo

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10 THINGS I LEARNED IN LIFE

​Here comes September, my birth month. Just can’t believe that I’ll be turning 29 in roughly two weeks. Time has really sailed so fast and as I contemplate about life, I realize that it is packed with twists and turns, ups and downs, joys and sorrows. Despite the fact that life doesn’t always favor on my side, I’m still up for more hitches and adventures.

  I listed here things that I certainly learned from my 29 years in the planet. Well, I honestly think that these will resonate with you or perhaps you could make your own list.

  1. It is easier to forgive than to forget. We may forgive someone who hurts us easily but forgetting is a different thing. Once we’re hurt, the negative feeling starts to consume us, it continues to haunt us even in our dreams. We can’t run from it and as they say, only time cures all wounds.
  2. God doesn’t give us trials beyond our capacity. Our lives here on Earth are coupled by trials and burdens. But the truth is, God wants us to pass the tests of life. When faced with mishaps, He’ll give us the power and the strength to endure them, eventually leads us to our way out.
  3. Time is always equated with love. Time is priceless. We only spend it with the persons who truly matter to us. If a person spends time with you, surely, you have a special place in his/her life.
  4. We don’t always get what we want instantly. Everything requires time and effort; it is a fact that we have to consider. Do your best and God will do the rest, as they say. You’ll have it, just learn how to wait.
  5. Love yourself first. When you are in loved, sometimes you easily give everything and forget yourself instantly. You are too overwhelmed by that feeling which often leads you to a serious problem. That’s not fair, you’ll be able to love and give more if you first love yourself.
  6. Identify your purpose. I have realized that it is necessary to identify our “purpose” in doing something. Knowing one’s why is an important step in figuring out how we achieve our dreams and goals. These things will stimulate us and guide us to create a life that is worth living.
  7. If you love the person, don’t change the person. Let us love them for who they are, not as we want them to be. It’s hard but love requires more acceptance and sacrifice. Let’s just pray that our love will transform them to be better persons as we always dream.
  8. Don’t just dream, chase it. It is not only enough that you aim for something. Don’t let your dream be only a dream. You have to strive harder so you can hit your goal.
  9. Be who you are. Whatever happens, no one can define you except yourself. The world may be tough, it is true, and you should not live just to conform to the standards of this society. You are who you are. Nobody knows you better than yourself. You should love and be loved for who you are, not as others want you to be.
  10. Writing (Blogging) is a form of therapy. This is true for some of us. This allows us to share our inner thoughts even our deepest desires without anticipations. Oddly, we feel better when we are able to translate our thoughts into words.

How about you? Have you already figured out those things that life taught you?         Please feel free to share it here.I would be glad to read your versions.

 

© Anabel Geneta-Raymundo 2017

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