Life is not easy. At this age and time, I haven’t met or heard someone saying it is the other way around.
We’ve all been there. Even the richest people in the world failed once or twice in their lives. Even the intellectuals suffered from despair and condemnation.
Life is an unending cycle of learning and relearning things. It is composed of twists and hitches that one needs to defeat.
As we see it, it is never perfect. However, we should never disregard this principle: Live life the way it should be lived.
I’m not a sage nor an expert. But I have this assenting view towards life. I have shared here 5 most important things you need to probably rediscover about life.
You may disagree with some of these but please give it a shot first. If it makes you better and happier, apply it. If you think it doesn’t do any good, throw it away.
So here it goes……
- Trust yourself.
You are living in a world where you are bombarded with how inadequate you are. You’ve seen in the news how another 19 year old created a software that some giant company bought for a frigging $1 billion. Then you look at yourself and feeling disgruntled for not doing the same.
Because you feel you don’t have enough knowledge, you go out trying to get more skills and competencies. But then, when you already acquire those, you realize you are still inadequate.
This is not because you lack anything or what. It is because you don’t have resourcefulness, the feeling and confidence within you. It requires to show that you can take care of things, that no matter how bad the situation is, you will overcome it. Just learn to trust yourself.
- Learn to ask the Right questions.
When I was younger, my parents would punish me for not knowing the right answers in my assignments, tests and activities. Of course, the same is true with my former teachers. They wanted me to get the correct answers instantly.
As I grew up, I discovered that knowing the correct answers wouldn’t give me anything. But the right questions would.
Why asking questions is better than knowing answers?
If you ask the right questions the more likely you get a good answer. If you think you have the answer then this thought will limit your ability to find a better answer.
Undoubtedly, questions help you clarify things in your mind. The better questions you ask, the better your answers will become.
- Practice the 20-Minute Rule.
This rule will completely change the way you think about doing and learning things. Even if you’ve never been able to learn a skill before, following this rule will help you learn that skill in 30 days or less.
What is the 20 Minute Rule?
The rule is this: Whatever you want to learn, practice it 20 minutes in the morning right after you wake up and another 20 minutes before you go to sleep.
This is essential. By spending the 20 minutes after you wake up, your brain will be at freshest and will be able to assimilate the lesson quickly. However, the 20 minutes before you sleep at night is more important.
During sleep, your brain starts to accumulate all the things you’ve learned in the day. New connections are made in the brain which supports learning.
There is a saying about the brain, “Neurons that fire together, wire together”. As you practice, the pathways get created. The process is called myelination. Myelin is a chemical in the brain that is used to connect neurons together.
The more you practice, the more myelin gets laid down, the easier it is to practice. This is a virtuous cycle that gets established.
The more you expose yourselves, the more likely you become skillful.
- Think Accurately.
The ability to see things as they are and not as you “think” they are is probably one of the best things you will learn in life.
Most people don’t have this ability. They think they do, but they actually don’t.
What is accurate thinking?
Accurate thinking is being able distinguish facts from opinions. Whenever someone talks to you, they will share their opinions, speckled by facts. Not facts, speckled by opinions.
Your job is to distinguish facts from opinions. You must determine also if it is an important fact or useless fact. If it is an important fact, use it. If it is not, forget about it.
Make your decisions based on facts that you collect from a number of resources.
Just remember a quote from Dead pool. “Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one, and everyone thinks everyone else’s stink.”
Focus on finding facts from the opinions and you will be successful.
- You matter than you think.
When I was 25, I had that fatal experience.
Strangely, my right foot had swollen without any knowledge of its cause. I went to the doctor to be checked and he said I suffered from cellulitis. It is a kind of cell infection which I might have gotten from insect bites. Then I was advised to take some medicines for a week, but it didn’t do any better.
My condition became even worse and that made me disheartened for days. I couldn’t eat nor sleep. Everything turned darker. The following day I was rushed in the hospital.
As I was resting in bed, I realized one thing. I didn’t want to die. Not this time.
The doctor clearly explained my condition. It was no longer about my swollen foot, I had that severe gastrointestinal problem. He further said that I was nearly dehydrated when I was rushed in. The situation could have been a lot worst if I weren’t brought earlier.
I realized then, just for that split moment. I mattered.
It was one of the valuable lessons I learned in life. I matter. It matters that I live. It matters that I do the things I want to do.
In this same light, I want to share it with you: You matter. Don’t wait for that fatal experience for you to understand how important you are.
Even if no one else cares, no one else recognizes you. You matter.
Sometimes the world will let you feel how incompetent and worthless you are. This might be the time when you’re thinking about jumping in front of a bus or shooting your head by a gun.
Don’t do that. You matter. It matters that people see your abilities.
It matters that you share your gifts to the world. You might be seeing your potentials just yet, but they are brilliant and surprising.
Let the world see them because you matter.
© Anabel Geneta-Raymundo