Does Altruism Exist?

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Some people say that there’s no such thing as altruistic acts–that every time we do good to others, we think of getting something in return, even it’s just a fuzzy feeling.

For weeks, I’ m baffled with this question in my head. Does altruism exist? Is it really possible to give without expecting a reciprocation?

We’ve all been there. You give your sister or brother a monetary support, thus expecting her or him to perform better in school. You cover for your co-worker because you know you’ll be needing his assistance later. You help your friend to be promoted in the job, and then feel enraged when he doesn’t show any support when you need it. You even give your best efforts to someone, and eventually feel mistreated when not reciprocated.

If you will contemplate on it, these expectations cause more disappointments than elation. Recently, I’ve been asking myself “What is my motive” before I do something to others. The answer I find, flashy as it may sound, is to feel good and spread love. Unconventionally, when I expect less, I get more, somehow.

I’ve listed down ten things you can do to show you care without expecting the recipient to return the benevolence. Actually, few were adapted from Ms. Lori Deschene’s “20 Ways to Give Without Expectations”. Maybe, some of these will resonate to you, or you might need to write your own list to spur the spirit of charity without anticipations.

  1. Ask, “What Can I do to help you today?” Then let it go after following through.
  2. Spare some money to someone who needs it and then pretend you never had it.
  3. Let someone share a story without the need to tell your own. Your sincerest attention will mean a lot.
  4. Comfort someone who is struggling in a hard-hitting situation. This will uplift his/her emotional condition.
  5. Forgive someone who wronged you because you understand them, not because you know they will owe you.
  6. Tell someone you believe in their potential, even if they haven’t always shown the same support.
  7. Leave a solicitous comment one someone’s blog, not to build your readership, but to show them how much they motivated you.
  8. Hold someone’s hand when they feel vulnerable to let them know you haven’t judged them.
  9. Change plans for someone you love, this will hoist their self-worth.
  10. I’ve left this one open for you to write. How do you give just to show you care?

Let’s face it: none of us is always kind. Human nature dictates that we need to at least get something from all the efforts that we give. Certainly, I think that’s acceptable as long as we make an exertion to do something good whenever possible.

Being altruistic is showing a desire to help other people unselfishly–an act of kindness that should be practiced once in a while. Undoubtedly, I believe that we are all born with that innate capacity to share what we have altruistically, thus, what we all we need is to find it within us.

I want to hear from you. Does altruism exist? Kindly share your opinions through the comment section. God bless you!

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Anabel G. Raymundo

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28 thoughts on “Does Altruism Exist?

  1. True altruism does exist but the beauty of an act of altruism is no one sees it. We know it has happened and we know it was needed. To give without reward or expectation and sometimes at risk to themselves. There are examples around us everyday. The question for me is am I an altruistic person?

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      1. I have a question, if kindness to others makes you feel good, and somehow the feeling inspires you to do more better things, is it still altruistic? like what you said, by helping others, we also help ourselves… I only asked because oftentimes, I love knowing that I have helped, I neither solicit gratitude from them nor try to check their response to my good deed, but sometimes, I ask myself, does it count when I feel good and get some sort of satisfaction in helping?

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      2. Well for me,I think that’s how it should be.True altruism gives boundless happiness to those who practice it.If helping makes you happy, there’s no need to feel unsure,you’re doing great.

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  2. Yes I believe altruism exists. Jesus said, “Give without expecting anything in return.” He would not have said to do it if it were not a thing. I think each of us should do something for someone who cannot repay us in anyway. Whether that is to do something anonymously or to do something for someone who has no means or ability to repay us in kind or even if it is to do something kind for someone who is not favorably disposed towards us (an enemy) this is a habit we should practice.

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  3. Really thought provoking post! I think if we define altruism as something that helps someone else at no cost to ourselves then I think, yes for sure, it exists. However, if it is a sacrifice that costs the giver something I’m really not sure if it does.

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    1. Well,i respect your point.But, I would like to believe that there are still altruists out there.Also,I’m quite certain that at some points in your life,you have already sacrificed some of your treasured possessions to help others without expecting anything in return.

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      1. Sure I’ve sacrificed material things and not expected anything back but it gives me pleasure to do that so is it pure altruism? My point was more whether people would sacrifice a palace for a prison if it meant that the other person would be freed…..,,

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      2. Only few do that.I have met people who have sacrificed their wealthy lives just to give out to the poor,to the needy.And yet they are living with peace and contentment.

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  4. I believe that one cannot give what they have not acquired. If a person does not love themselves, the love they can give is limited by the fear of not being good enough. Altruism comes from surplus, as one who gives their seed-corn, never has a crop again.
    Those who desire to be altruistic need to succeed in the area of their giving. Altruism does not have to be material. A person who brings love to neglected people in a nursing home gives a greater gift. Working on self-love amplifies the power of their gifts.

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    1. I couldn’t agree more.There is no greater gift than love,and the sharing/giving out of love is more precious than any treasured possessions that we could give.
      Thanks for contributing your thoughts here.

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  5. I believe I try hard to honestly and openly help others in my daily life, I believe in spreading random acts of kindness (even the smallest ones go a long way).

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  6. Really amazing and stimulating post. I like the thoughtful list you posed to us and is important to keep in mind! Thank you so much for sharing this with us. You are a generous, talented, and supportive human being 🙂 sending lots of love!

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